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Join Adam Barralet, Kyle Perez , Ashley Leavy and Nicholas Pearson in Episode #19 of the Crystal Confab Podcast as they each reveal their their three all-time favorite crystals for love. Tune in now to hear about the best crystals to use for the many different types of love, including:

• Romantic love
• Platonic love
• Familial love
• Self-love
• And so much more!

Tune in now for a deeper look at Crystals of Love!

Crystals of Love Podcast Transcript:

Crystal Confab Podcast Introduction: Are you just starting with crystals? Or maybe you have a whole collection but aren’t sure how to use them? Join four crystal nerds, healers, workers, and lovers for a casual chat about all things crystals.

Nicholas Pearson: Hello, and welcome to another edition of Crystal Confab. I’m Nicholas. I’m joined by three of my crystal besties, and we have a little bit of an unusual episode for you all. So you’ve probably gotten familiar with our pick a stone and dive right in format, and that’s great. We’re gonna keep doing that, but there’s something really special on the horizon.

By the time this episode comes out, it’s just gonna be a little ahead of Valentine’s Day. Love will be in the air, maybe more so than it normally is or maybe we’re just paying better attention to it. And to celebrate that, we have collectively decided to share our favorite crystals for love. So you’re gonna hear what we work within our own lives, what we recommend to others, and maybe meet some undervalued, underappreciated, maybe some unknown crystals for love and romance along the way. So let’s go ahead and just kick it off. Kyle, what are your three favorite crystals for love?

Kyle Perez: Well, it was really hard for me to choose just three. I don’t know about everyone else, but I certainly had a challenge cutting it down to three. I’ve tried to pick three that I work with a lot, and I’ve worked with a lot through my journey. I’m going to start with jade. Jade has two flavors.

We have nephrite jade and jadeite jade. These are two flavors of jade that are very similar, but they have, I wrote this down so I wouldn’t forget single chain silicate versus double chain silicate. Your nephrite jade will form thank you, Nicholas. I had to remember and write it down. Your double, your nephrite jade will form larger but less dense.

Your jadeite will be smaller and more dense. Both of them are arguably the densest materials in the crystal world. They are internally stronger than most others. Diamonds have a hardness on the outside. Jade has it internally, and this is why I love it for love because it gives us internal strength.

It gives us the support of our internal body. It helps us to feel, see, and tap into all of the things that help us to feel more loved, more strong, more supported. If you look into culture where jade is utilized in New Zealand, Aotearoa, greenstone is prevalent through familial bonds. It is something that is given and handed down and is a totem for family. In Asian culture and Chinese culture, it is gifted to family, gifted to friends for abundance, for wealth.

Right? Both of these things, wealth, abundance, family, it’s all heart energy. It’s all love energy. When we feel abundant, when we feel surrounded by good things and good people, we feel more love, and that’s why I love Jade. It helps you to see the right people that support you and those that don’t so that you can invest less in that and more in those that do support you.

It helps you to also see where you need to take care of yourself better and love yourself more. For me, it has helped me to love my physical body, and my physical body is something I don’t love so much being someone who suffers chronic pain. For me, it has taught me physical body love. I can appreciate myself more. What’s the saying?

My body holds my organs in place, and that’s all it needs to do right now. Right? That’s perfect for what it’s doing. Most of what I do is energetic and spiritual anyway, so the physical body doesn’t have to do too much. And I love jade for giving you that ability to see.

These are two beautiful, jade eyed jades. One is from Myanmar, and the other one’s actually from Greenland. It has this really dark green, fascinating energy. And as soon as I saw it, I had to get some just to try it out, just to see what it’s like. I find jadeite has this illumination energy.

It really helps us to illuminate. It helps us to see, and it helps us to connect with whatever it is that we need to illuminate. And when they’re focused on love, you’ll see the right people around you. And Nephrite will, for me, strengthen those bonds, connect to them more deeply, and deepen the layers so that you can feel more loved, more connected, more supported, and less like you need all of that external validation and support. You know that you have it at home from your partner, from your friends, from your spirit guides, from your pet, from your plants.

Simple, what do I need? That’s where it is for me, and that’s why I love, love, love jade. And I will be thankful that I waited. I didn’t connect with jade at first. It was one of those funny minerals that it took me a little bit of time to get there.

And when I did, I was really ready to do so. Now my second is also another greenstone. And now this greenstone, unfortunately, is an umbrella because it’s green garnets. Now green garnets have four flavors. Let me check my notes real fast because I don’t want to be pulled up by Nicholas again.

We have your demonoid. You have your grosula. You’ve got your varivite and hydrogrossular, which is kind of its own little thing. And you’ve got your three techniques and then the hydrogrossular is like an extra one. Right?

And they fall under the ugrandite umbrella of garnets, and it’s calcium that makes them green. It’s aluminum or aluminum that makes your redder ones in that reddy, earthy, pink spectrum. So we can kind of separate them, which is quite interesting. Your green garnets, this is a Mexican cluster. You can see the little greeny ones here.

This is a Mali green garnet, a bit more yellow. And I would say my two favorites, this Iranian demantoid and this little savorite from Tanzania. Green garnet for me is so about letting yourself have love, being deserving of that love. This is a hydrogrossular slice, a really beautiful chunk, and these are a couple of tumbles. And what’s interesting about hydrogrossular is it forms more like rose quartz than a single crisp singular crystal, but it still has that density, which we really, really love.

When it comes to green garnet, it’s all about worthiness. If you think about today’s day and age, and especially I don’t know if culturally it’s  the same for you guys over there, but in Australia, Tall Poppy Syndrome is real. We are always holding ourselves back from more or having or wanting. Right? And it has been for me a great key in unlocking the ability to have love. This is something that I’m lucky to have.

I have parents. I’ve had parents that love me. I have a partner that I’ve been with for twenty years, but I’ve had a lot of complex connections to, like, friendships and clients and the world at large. So I’m not unharmed from the world of not being loved and all of that sort of stuff even though I’ve had love and support. And I think that’s where it’s really important to know that you can have love, you can have support, but you can still not feel loved or you can feel not supported or you can not feel worthy of that love. And this is where green garnet for me is like, yes.

You can have. You should have. You are amazing. This is a little uvarovite cluster, and, of course, it’s not going to focus because the crystals are literally so small. It is focusing on all of those good things. I have been taught that I can earn my own money and then spend it on the things that I want to spend it on. I can hang out with people that make me feel good and distance myself from those that don’t light me up. I can follow weird, hobbies or hyper focuses that are heartwarming and exciting. Even if it’s only for a short period, Greg Garnett has gone, just do it for a bit.

Enjoy it, have fun, and then relax. For me, it’s about loving life and letting yourself love your life, and I think it’s really important that we touch on that when it comes to love because life can be very unlovable sometimes, and the more we can do to make our life worth living and enjoyable and lovable, the happier we’re going to feel. And this is one I can’t recommend wearing enough to feel that. And honestly it doesn’t matter where you wear it, but, obviously, if you can wear it on your receptive hand or your receptive energy, you’ll bring it in. But for me, I started by wearing a necklace, a chain like this, wearing it daily, and it was like, oh, that you can have instead of looking at all of that that you don’t have. It helps to change that perspective, and all garnets protect me. Like, they’re all so protective and so strengthening, so it’s going to protect that heart center so you can bring all of that abundance in. And it’s not about having everything. It’s about having enough, and I think that’s where garnet really comes into its own, especially these green garnets.

And if you think your salvarides especially are colored by the same things that color emerald, you know, it’s chromium and vanadium that tap into that. So it’s got similar properties, but it grows differently. So it’s not going to work in exactly the same way. So I can say it is similar to emerald, but definitely not the same. Now my final crystal, this might be a bit of a weird one again, but I love it because it’s, for me, universal in the way it speaks about love, and that’s sugilite, often pronounced no. Sorry. Sugilite. Often pronounced sugilite because it’s after Kentsugi, the sent Kentsugi, the Japanese professor. I’ll get there eventually. I’m not good at talking today, clearly.

Sugilite for me is singing on a loving spectrum. I wrote down something, and I want to read this out. Imagine you’re far away from civilization, in nature at night laying on the ground, looking up at the stars on a clear, calm night. Look at how massive and expansive it is. Look at yourself now.

Think about how tiny you are in comparison. Think about how now you are a part of that massive thing intrinsically connected to all things, some connections deeper, some closer than others, but still infinite in the number of layers, lines, paths, and possibilities. Let this shift energetically within. Feel the universal love flow through you, over you, inside you, washing away all the insignificance and leaving pure love. That is my automatic writing poem that came with Sujilite, and that is, I think, the epitome of how it helps us to see that there is so much out there, and we feel so insignificant, but we’re all connected, and it’s all love.

Ashley Leavy: I have to say, Kyle, in our last episode, I distinctly remember you saying how you have writing trauma, and you do not like to write. You have a tenuous relationship. That was beautiful. So I’m just gonna say that.

Kyle: Thank you. Thank you. And that’s something I’ve had to become comfortable with is, like, putting things out there that you maybe haven’t been comfortable with before. I think that’s the essence of love is being able to just trust and put it out there, and it doesn’t have to come back in a way that you think it’s going to. It doesn’t have to come back at all. Right? I think that’s the essence of love, unconditional love.

Ashley: I have a question for you. I’m wondering, when you are talking about jade, you’re talking about the flavors, jadeite and nephrite. And you went into a really interesting discussion on different types of jade coming from different places and how that kind of subtly changes the energy. Right? So I’m wondering, have you found that to be true of other crystals? Like, I know if I work with an amethyst from Mexico versus an amethyst from Uruguay, they’re gonna feel a little bit different. Is that something you’ve experienced?

Kyle: I would say a thousand percent especially with this jade. As I mentioned, like, this is Myanmar, this is Greenland, and they work on a very different level. And I’m sorry. I’m just gonna get the torch. You can see that they’re both green.

You can see that even in that dark nephrite dark jadeite from Greenland, it is still bright green from within. So for me, it has taught me that, like, it doesn’t have to be obvious. It’s taught me about the less obvious forms of love, more subtle, more in the shadow, almost more hidden. Whereas this one is like, look at it. It’s there.

Like, you can see it. It’s very much about the obvious. And I found even though it’s jade eyed and illuminates, it’s done in a more subtle way. And I think that’s common for so many. We touched on that with amethyst in our amethyst episode when I talked about the Australian amethyst versus Brazilian or Uruguayan, especially. So it definitely changes from where they are. 

Adam Barralet: I love that you talked about Sugilad and brought that up as one of yours too, Kyle, because I think we kind of chose it to theme around Valentine’s Day. Some people love Valentine’s Day, they get into it, and others hate it. And especially if you’re single, it can be a bit of a depressing time because love’s everywhere. But studios like Lucky were kind of mentioning, I find it’s really beautiful for reminding you that the universe loves you. And sometimes humans suck.

And sometimes we have these little patches in our life where there isn’t a single human that’s really kind of fulfilling our needs. I found very early in my life when I was working on crystals with Sugilite, when I’d sit outside, I’d almost start automatically rocking with it, and it would almost help me to get into the flow of the universe and feel that you are supported. Even when the humans aren’t supporting you. There’s something beyond that supporting you. So I think it can be a really nice one for even supporting singles at this time.

Do you reckon?

Kyle: I absolutely think so. This is a little known fact about me, but my original, anniversary day with my husband is Valentine’s Day, and it’s like, it disgusts us. We don’t like to buy into it. Like, it’s so funny because we didn’t do it intentionally. We just went out for dinner, and it was like, why are there couples everywhere?

And it just happened to be. So even though, like, we don’t atone and connect as much to Valentine’s Day, like, I know I live it every day. And for me, it was, like, funny that it connected at the same time. We purposely got married on a different day so we changed our anniversary day, but it’s still within a two week time frame of that time. It’s still in the same frame.

It’s still there. So you don’t have to buy into the commercial side of the Valentine’s Day love. Know that there’s just so many layers of love out there.

Adam: Very much so. Well, I love what you shared, but you are gonna have to be disqualified for your content today because you actually gave us seven crystals, not three.

Kyle: I’m sorry. I hide. I don’t please.

Nicholas: I love those choices, though. I love that you’ve got a little bit of conventional, a little unconventional, and you inspired me, because I always play a little bit of show and tell. One of the most precious things in my collection, I’m about to show up to you or show it to the camera now. Hold up to

Adam: the camera to show you. And, it

Nicholas: is one of the three things you just talked about, but it is probably not the one you expect. This is the original sigillite from Japan, which was named after Sugi Kenichi. This took, like, moving mountains to get. But unlike the stuff we see coming from South Africa, it has no manganese in it. So it’s not mangano and sigillite.

It’s just sugilite, and hence, it’s not purple. So, I think I’m gonna give this a place of honor this Valentine’s Day. So thank you. Speaking of great choices, I would really love to know what Adam’s picked up for us this week.

Adam: Oh, okay. Well, welcome to the Adam Barralet dating show. I’m gonna guide you through the steps of dating with my three choices. So if you are single, you know, my first choice is Kunzat. And I believe this, and I will argue with everyone that this is the highest vibration of all the pink crystals.

This is not a crystal that you want to be giving to your 13 year old or 14 year old when you want them to attract a boyfriend or a girlfriend because this tends to attract lifelong bonds. I find it’s a really great one for strengthening not only romantic soulmate bonds, but it’s great for connecting parents to children and vice versa, siblings, and even friends that we wanna have that lifelong bond with. But if you’re single at the moment, this is my recommendation. And this is the crystal that I’ve constantly lent into when I’m like, right. I’m ready.

I’ve done my stuff. I think it’s time to meet the one or the one for now, whatever that may be, but a serious, deep, fulfilling spiritual relationship. Now I love to incorporate other things in with my crystal work rather than just relying on that crystal work. So I have a bit of a thing where you have to kind of rearrange your bedroom a little bit if you’re single right now. So, normally, if you’re single, we have, you know, we might have two bedside tables, and your rubbish is on both.

And you’ve got your stuff all around the house, and there’s no energetic space for someone to move into that. So what I’d encourage you to do is, you know, we don’t need to hurry a relationship and let’s start getting them to move in tomorrow, but energetically show that you have room for someone to come into your home. So maybe clearing off one bedside table may leave a little gap in the wardrobe, a bit of a gap under the bathroom cupboard and different things like that as well. Now what we do on one of those empty bedside tables is you have a candle and you prop it or put it next to a mirror. And each night, this is something I’ve done a couple of times in my life with patches, as I’ll listen to the same song every night.

I hold my kunzite. I close my eyes after I’ve lit that candle, and I visualize the person I want to draw into my life. Now my one caveat when it comes to drawing people into your life is you don’t visualize them. You engage all the other four senses. But if you start visualizing someone who’s, you know, got long flowing blonde hair and blue eyes, you’re canceling out all the other people as well.

So it’s almost like you’re in a darkened room. And I don’t have a guided meditation available on Kunzeit, but if you do buy Rose Quartz one, which you can grab on iTunes, it’s pretty much the same thing. So work with that. What we’re doing here is we’re sending our vision into that crystal and then keeping that crystal with us. We’re doing it in the bedroom, which is an intimate area.

And why we have that candle, which is the element of fire, which is the, you know, passion and fast transformation. Why do we have it against the mirror? What are you creating? You’ve got a flame, and then in the reflection, you have your twin flame. So it’s bringing all these things together with a little work. Doing that night after night after night, and I would just listen to the same song.

It’s a three minute song, and it would just evoke that feeling of what I wanted in that relationship. So it’s a really beautiful one to bring in if you wanna attract someone serious into your life, but also a really beautiful one if you want to strengthen that bond as well. Now all going well, then you get a first date and you want to be on your best. So this is where you need your bow chicka wow wow stone. I call it.

This is sphalerite. Now it’s part of the zoisite family, so it’s related to green zoisite that you may know and also related to tanzanite. But it comes in pinky orangey kinda colors, and I tend to like you can get some kind of dull colored tumbled stone, but I really like these vibrant ones that have these strong oranges and pinks and reds in it. Now for me, I can often feel the energy of a crystal in one of the four elements, but this one kind of is a combination of the two. It’s fire and it’s air.

It’s like hot air. And it really helps to awaken that femme fatale and that doesn’t want that kind of energy in you. It allows you to flirt. It allows you to be kind of, quite, playful with your words and put your best foot forward. And that’s what we want to do on a first date.

We wanna feel lively. We wanna feel confident. We wanna feel quite kind of feeling our best in that type of way. You know, Starlight’s not something I would just use, for a first date. It could be a job interview as well because that’s somewhere else where we need to put our best foot forward, where we need to think on our feet and kind of be quick witted.

Any of those types of situations, this is a really great one. But it also does have a bit of a protective element in relationships. Really great to place around the bedroom if you’re worried about third parties interfering. Now that may be just the bloody mother-in-law that always has an opinion on what you should do, Or maybe there’s that receptionist that does your partner’s work who you’re just not feeling too comfortable about. This is a bit of an energetic protector of helping to defend and protect that relationship as well.

From a Feng Shui point of view, a mirror facing the bed isn’t always a good thing. It does invite third parties in. So that’s another thing you can bring in as well. But this is a really great one for awakening that fun, high spirited kind of energy when it does come to love in that way. Now talking about awakening passion and awakening the fire that probably brings in one of my absolute, I would say this would be in my top four of all time crystals.

And it’s a crystal with a bit of an unusual name. It’s called Tundepeit. Now Tundepeit is from Greenland, which is quite interesting that Greenland’s coming up because it didn’t have been in the news quite often recently, in relation to America. So I do hope that all goes well. And we can still get their amazing crystals from Greenland.

I think it’s just because they’ve been sitting up on the top of the globe. Not much of moving and some really spectacular stuff has come up. Now, Tugtupite, it’s tug like a tugboat, tup like tupperware and then ite. Bit of an unusual one. And I remember when I first discovered Greenland crystals on a site, I spent about three weeks trying to make sure I could pronounce them all somewhat because they do have these really unusual names.

Now the cool thing about this stone is when you drag it out of the earth, most of the time, it’s just boring black and white. But what they find once it’s exposed to light, bits of pink will actually flare up in it. So we all may remember if you’re old enough, the good old hypercolor t-shirts change color when we wore them. It’s like a hypercolor t-shirt in a crystal. Now some of them will just retain that pink all the time, but I do actually have one pendant that if it’s left in the drawer for a while, just goes black and white.

And then as I wear it throughout the day, the pink flares up and then it curves back down. And the Inuits actually would say that the passion of a newlywed couple should be enough to ignite the stone alone. What I love about this crystal is it helps to awaken the passion in any stage of a relationship. If you’ve ever been in a relationship for longer than, say, a year, it does start to kind of love a little bit. We get into comfort, and it’s a different type of stability and relationship.

Maybe not so fiery and maybe a bit more earthy. But we do need to bring that kind of passion up a little bit, and that’s why I absolutely love tug to fight for awakening. As the crystal brings that fire from within and out, it does the same view as well. And you can do this around a relationship to rekindle a relationship at any point, especially around Valentine’s Day if that’s your jam. But also just whenever you’re feeling a little bit flash as well or when you wanna feel inspired.

Even if you’ve gotta write a birthday card and can’t think of something nice or, you know, creative to say, hold your tongue to bite in one hand. It could be really, really great. But tongue to bite, if I can actually notice as soon as I pick it up, it will be a flashback. Do you remember once upon a time I’m sure you’re in the class because I used to pass references to his mother’s crystal shop before. And I remember that I was going to teach about Tugtupite one day.

And so I wore it all day, and I had two pieces on. And I remember when I got to the shop and when I started speaking, and I’m noticing the pace of my speech now, I was it’s like I drank four liters of Coca Cola. It really ignites that passion and that fire and that energy. So when you need that, whether it be on a first date, whether it be a long term relationship, whether it be in the bedroom, if you need to ignite it, for me, touch bite gets my boat. So they’re my top three that I think, I love them for love.

Kyle: I have to like, I love that. I remember you came in. It was like a tornado, Adam. It was immense. Like, this shot wasn’t huge, but, like, he came in all crystal and papers, and the whole class was already there as well.

I’m pretty sure everyone was already there, and it was just this, like, excitement level. And it was like, okay. Let’s talk about some other ones too because we’ve got some other crystals to talk about. It’s not just hope to pipe tonight. Like, I remember it was immense, and I loved it.

It was so much fun.

Adam: Yeah. It’s a beautiful crystal. If you don’t have it, it’s worth hunting around. It’s a bit hard to find, but really, really good.

Ashley: Adam, you gave us some really great suggestions for placements of different crystals, of these favorite crystals of yours. And you mentioned tectabite for the bedroom, maybe if you need to reignite that little spark of passion. What if it was something that you needed to kind of reignite within yourself? Do you have any other recommendations for where you might place that around the house?

Adam: For around the house, you know, this is where you could get into a bit of of feng shui and, you know, you know, I I have tidbits of feng shui, but I’m not gonna say that I’m a feng shui expert or anything like that. There are the nine regions of the house, and, you know, a simple Google search can only help us work out where our success corner is or where our family corners. That could be a great tip as well. I would probably say though, you could put time to buy in the bedroom. But for me, I actually think it’s better to form like, short burst meditation.

Or if it’s time to, you know, these Thumbite and tug to bite, they’re probably not ones you want to wear every single day, you’ll probably end up with exhaustion by the end of the week. But they are really great for that. They are firing. They ignite that fire in that way. So that would probably be more my guidance.

And also be mindful, if we’re putting passion crystals in the bedroom, we want passion, but we also want a good night’s rest. So work out how you’re gonna juggle that in your own lives as well. Maybe, you know, once it’s time to tuck in and fall asleep, maybe those crystals need to go in a drawer or go somewhere else just so the fires aren’t burning all night.

Ashley: Oh, come on. You just gotta wear yourselves out. That’s

Adam: That’s a spiel getting in the spirit of Valentine’s Day. I love it. I’ll call you in the morning on the fifteenth of Feb and see how you’re feeling.

Ashley: I think Nicholas had something you wanted to share too.

Nicholas: I just wanted to say I thought those are really great recommendations, and I love that we’re halfway through this episode talking about crystals for love and, like, rose quartz is not part of the conversation yet. There’s just so many other things that we can do. So I think that’s phenomenal. But speaking of so many great crystals, Ashley, what do you have for us?

Ashley: Yeah. You know, I had kind of a different approach to this. I like how everyone took our theme and just, like, ran a different direction with it. So I picked crystals for unusual types of love. Okay?

So this was my inspiration. So my first crystal is morganite. This is honestly just one of my favorite crystals in general. It’s funny how we all have, like, this is in my top five, that made the love list. But for me, morganite is about that divine love, that universal love, that love that we feel from spirit as, like, beings in this universe, that love that makes us feel so connected to one another in our humanity, to the earth, to the plants and animals, all living beings, to the cosmos.

Like, this is like that, you know, zooming way out and taking the whole universe into your heart kind of love, and that is what I love about the stone. It is one of those things that just helps remind me to be in my heart space, to act with compassion, to hold empathy, to take even difficult situations and kind of cultivate the awareness to approach them with love, which is not always easy. My husband and I had our first experience shopping in one of those really, really, really big supermarket shopping center places on Saturday. I won’t name which one, but we decided we’re never going back. But I wish I had had some morganite in each of our pockets because, boy, were we grumpy and crabby when we came out there.

So reminding us even in those difficult challenging situations, you know, even if you’re commuting home from work and your boss was yelling at you all day and someone just cut you off, like, letting you act from a place of love, remember to approach all situations with love. Remember that everyone else is just a human doing their best too. Even if you don’t think they are, reminding yourself that they’re doing their best probably. That’s really important. And so this is a pocket stone for me.

This is a touch stone for me. Just anytime I need that support from the universe, I need that feeling. And not just what I’m putting out there in terms of me wanting to act from a place of love, but also remembering that I am supported and loved by the universe. Kyle, you were talking about, you know, there are those times where you’re not necessarily feeling that support that you need and that you crave in that moment. And I think that’s such a human experience.

Even if you have love and support in lots of ways in your life, it doesn’t mean that there might not be part of that that feels unfulfilled from time to time. Right? I think that’s really common. Or sometimes we just forget how loved and supported we are even if other people are showing it or we’re feeling sensitive or we’re feeling hurt or we’re worried about something or feeling fearful. And it comes up that in those times, we need more support.

I actually had that last night. So it’s funny that we’re talking about this, but I had to do something new that was really scary. And I was communicating to my husband, like, I feel really scared about this. I am really nervous. And he was approaching it from this place of, like, logic and reason, which is very much his way, and that’s cool.

But I was like, you know what? I appreciate that you’re sharing that, but I’m feeling like that’s not the type of support I need right now. I’m not, like, feeling and it took me a minute to get there and communicate. Like, why is this not useful or helpful? And then, like, you know what?

Because I actually don’t need the logic. I just need that, ‘that sucks, and I’m here for you.’ How can you feel better? You know? What can we do together to, like, make you feel less scared and that kind of thing?

So that’s where morganite comes in. Morganite is like that little pocket buddy that just reminds you that that’s an option. My next crystal is a self love stone for me, and it’s actually one we talked about in our last episode a little bit. So that is rhodonite. I love rhodonite.

It’s so dreamy. It is my go to for enhancing friendships, family relationships, and promoting a little bit of new beginnings. So if you kind of need to hit the reset button on your connection with yourself, if you need a little reminder, a little refresh when it comes to your self love, because it is so easy to just get, like, swept up in your routine or, like, your day to day, how things are going, and not make that time and space for yourself. Rodonite is that reminder that we can choose a fresh start whenever we want, especially when it comes to our self care. Because sometimes we just need to be able to take care of ourselves, and it is that stone that reminds us to do that.

So I think wearing jewelry is great. But if you want some extra support with this, I think using some rhodonite in a crystal grid and just having that grid going with that background energy, just pumping out that reminder for self love is really, really powerful. And that’s kind of all I’ll say about that one. I’m gonna keep it short and sweet because this is one I just wanna encourage everyone to experiment with and experience for yourself because it is such a magical crystal. And I wanna leave a little bit of the mystery for how that might show up for you.

But my third one, this is where it gets really weird. This is my tough love stone, and this is  Green Aventurine. Green Aventurine for me is that almost stern strict parental energy. It is the stone that kind of kicks my butt a little bit, but in the most loving way. So when I’m doing things that aren’t in my best interest, making decisions at the expense of my mental health or physical health, when I’m stretching myself a little too thin, when I am saying yes to everything, when I probably should be saying no to a few things.

Green aventurine is like that stern strict parent that has your best interest in mind and reminds you that, like, sometimes you need to make better choices. And I think that that is important, and we can all use that from time to time. So this is one that if I start to feel rundown, if I start to feel overwhelmed, and it’s not coming from, you know, that place of, like, a little worry, a little anxiety that is all too common to me, and I might choose aquamarine or moonstone or something like that. It’s like, I know I have just gotten myself into a bit of a pickle. This is like the other green thing that’ll help me out of the pickle situation.

It’s the anti pickle. So, Green Aventurine is, for that reason, one of my favorites for getting back on track. And I think sometimes that is, like, the most loving thing we can do for ourselves. And so pairing that little bit of tough love energy with that rhodonite, that new beginnings, that reset, that self love can be really beneficial in those situations. And I did have to say, I know, Nicholas, you were just like, I can’t believe we’re having a whole love episode, and we haven’t talked about rose quartz yet.

I’m doing it. It’s happening. I would encourage everyone to go back and listen to our rose quartz episode as well because there is a lot that we share about love there in so many different forms. And so, like Kyle got some bonus crystals, so I’m getting bonus crystals too. My bonus crystal is rose quartz.

I have on my grandmother’s rose quartz beads right now. She was so important in my life. I talk a little bit about her in our rose quartz episode. But for that, like, familial love, that ancestral love, like, rose quartz for me is definitely where it’s at. It holds so many memories and, I think, can just give you a little bit of strength, especially in those times where maybe you’re needing that little love boost.

Adam: Look at us. As soon as we change the format, we can’t keep ourselves under control, and I need to throw in a little bit of an opinion. I actually Morganite could have been in my top three as well, so I really did love that one. At one point, I wanna share from my experience in Morgana, which could be really helpful for some people that are tuning in, is I find when we, you know, spiritual people interested in a new age, a bit more empathetic, we can be very sensitive and very, mindful of the other person, and we we can be very giving. And I find that in a relationship, there is a fine line between compromise and sacrifice.

And I find the Beryl family, Morganite, Aquarine Emerald, but especially Morganite in love, really good to sit with and ask the question, am I compromising because we know in a relationship that you know, we can’t always choose what we watch on TV, that we maybe we take turns. That’s a compromise. But a sacrifice is, we just watch whatever they wanna watch because it’s just easier than having a fight about it. We start sacrificing too much of ourselves. So if you’re kind of in that lingering of, like, am I being fair to myself, to my partner?

Maybe they’re accusing you of being selfish. I find it’s a really great one to sit with for a while to maybe journal. We’ve talked about automatic writing in the last few episodes, that type of thing, and to help to bring a bit more clarity to that. And if you need some extra, bring in, red Jasper as well, and and those two can work really well together, as a bit of a balance around type of thing and working out. Is there equality in the relationship? So it’s really great.

Ashley: We also have a previous episode on Red Jasper, so give that a listen too.

Adam: Definitely. Yes. We’re gonna be your Valentine, you’re not gonna have time to go find a Valentine. You’re gonna be listening to all our episodes. Now, Nicholas, what have you got for us?

What are the top three that you believe?

Nicholas: Oh, so I wanted to pick some things that I thought would be very much filling in gaps that we don’t normally talk about when it comes to love. And we’ve all kinda come at this from different ways. So I have a couple that might seem obvious, but maybe the way I’m talking about them won’t be. And then I also have something that I think is a little bit of an outlier. So first and foremost, let’s talk about Ruby.

Ruby is, you know, very classically associated with love love and romance. It’s red. We wanna make those things nice and romantic. We see all these beautiful ruby red hearts everywhere for Valentine’s Day, but there’s so much more to it than that. So, you know, Ruby has traditional associations with the physical organ of the heart, not just the heart chakra, but, our blood, our viscera.

It gets things pumping and going. It gets us excited. Ruby has been associated with fires of passion, fires of, transformation, but we also find the majority of rubies are not rich fiery red. We have our rock rubies that are gonna be brownish and purplish and kind of muddy, murky shades of red. Sometimes if we’re lucky, they might be embedded in some beautiful metamorphic rocks like ruby and kyanite, ruby and fuchsia ruby and zoacite.

We might also get some that have some really nice, perfectly arranged fibers of rutile titanium oxide inside some, and they’ll create little stars. So I have my favorite star, Ruby. I don’t know how well this is gonna show up. Really not at all. So we’re gonna use our imaginations.

It’s got a good asterism. But ruby gets its color from chromium. And chromium gets its name in turn from Greek, kromos, meaning colorful, because it produces some of the most vibrant pigments in the mineral kingdom. It makes rubies red and emeralds green, more on that in a moment. But chromium has also popped up in some of the stones we’ve already talked about tonight.

It’s what’s making fuchsia green, which makes, in turn, the aventurine, green. It’s just such a wonderful rock. The rich, luscious, imperial green jadeite is also from chromium. Some of our green garnets, chromium. So just there’s a vibrancy to it, and it really helps us pursue things with vibrancy.

Ruby is really durable on our Mohs scale of hardness. It’s a corundum, so it’s there at nine ranked under diamond, and it can give us a little bit of tenacity, a little bit of strength in our emotional body. When the going gets tough, it’s very easy to say, no. Thank you. But Ruby says, actually, let’s lean into the discomfort.

Let’s embrace whatever emotion we’ve got as fuel for our transformation process, fuel for our healing process, fuel for loving ourselves, our partners, our families, our communities, harder because they’re worth it. We’re worth that. Working through that is important to us. And then when we get some of those, you know, fun combination sounds like ruby and fuchsia and ruby and and zoocyte, we get such good complementary forces there that in some cases kind of soften the effects of the ruby because it can be a little bit harsh being so high on that hardness scale. But it brings some levity that’s important there as well.

So I think ruby is a great stone. There’s lots of traditional folklore about love and romance related to it, but you can find that anywhere. So that’s what I wanted to say there. The next stone that I wanna talk about is one that features really prominently in our home, in our relationship, and that is smokey quartz. So, I’m a quartz fan.

If somehow I were, like, placed on a list and are only allowed to collect one species of mineral for the rest of my life, and that was, like, a closely guarded thing, it would be quartz. Hands down. No questions have to be asked. And I love weird quartz. I love quartz that tells a story.

And what I love about smoky quartz is that it has something, basically, any clear quartz has, but that something has been activated, has been turned on, and has become a color center. So when we look at a perfectly transparent piece of quartz, unbeknownst to us, there’s a lot of alumina that has substituted for some of the silica in its structure. And thanks to the kind of ionizing background radiation in in rocks, just generally speaking, especially in the pegmatites where we find some smoky quartz, this this little extra energy kind of bombards those those bits of alumina, and it it bends the bonds and does some fun stuff to it, which makes it draw in light differently. So if lots of those centers are really super activated, it pulls in the whole spectrum of light. If less of them are activated, if they’re less present, if there’s less radiation, they can come out really pale and transparent, like champagne colored, like bordering on citrine, and some are so dark that they are black.

And some years ago, it was actually the first year that my husband and I were together. I went to visit one of my friends and mentors in the crystal world, Sharon Britton, before she retired from her shop. And I I had the opportunity to hold things that I wouldn’t normally get in my collection, and wouldn’t you know, I picked up a smoky quartz. And I couldn’t put it down. I also couldn’t afford it under no circuit no uncertain terms could this come home with me.

And she worked out the world’s longest layaway program, so I could get this piece of smoky quartz. It was mined in the nineteen forties in Joaquin Felicio in Cerroco Brau, which is in Minas Gerais, Brazil. Lots of us know this region from, like, the February onwards as being the home of the Lemurian Sea crystals. It was also a site of really important mining, for, like, communications technology, crystal radio sets in, like, the war interwar period. So a lot of this stuff has sat around collecting dust as part of, like, military technology vaults that are useless to us now because we don’t do that anymore.

So, this is that particular Lemurian Sea Quartz, Smoky Quartz, and I love it. This is one of those touchstones that I go to when life is overwhelming, when emotions are overwhelming. When we want to really settle into a happy, healthy, long lived relationship, we need to have the tools required to keep us anchored during change, during turmoil, during grief, during loss, during job changes of the good and less good kind of moves in our home. And smokey quartz exerts such a powerfully stabilizing influence. In part, we can see that echoed in the way it interacts with light.

Those color centers draw in the whole spectrum of light. It’s almost like this etheric vacuum cleaner. It’s a sponge for the things that are gonna overwhelm us, and so it creates more space in us to be able to handle that. Smoky quartz is a stone that I turn to for love because it helps us take love out of the realm of emotion and into a force for shaping our life. Love is not just this warm and fuzzy thing that’s in our heart.

Love is the motivating factor that turns a relationship into something that’s going to last, turns a house into a home, that turns a place where you’re at into a community. Love is one of those things that is so much more than an emotion, and it’s one of the cosmic forces that makes everything tick. So, a few years ago when my husband and I got married, and I got to visit Sharon one last time before, she retired, and the shop is now in other hands. It turns out she had two crystals from this mine. So she gave us the other one as our very belated wedding gift.

So they sit on one of the main altars in our home. I would say that they both have joint custody. My husband knows they’re really both mine, but they do belong to both of us in a roundabout way. This one’s a lot more kind of citrini colored and double terminated. But, they’ve become these, like, beacons of light and hope and strength when we need them.

And then my last love crystal, I’ve talked about my love for it in the past. I know we’re gonna talk about it again in the future. It’s emerald. So I have my favorite Ethiopian emerald because, why not? It’s larger than life for emeralds.

We got to know one of its siblings already. Ashley talked about morganite, which gets its color from manganese. Emerald gets its color from chromium, but they’re both barrels. And this is sometimes known in, like, new age y circles as the stone of successful love. It’s long been connected to the planet Venus, which, of course, is the goddess of love, the archetype of love, in the heavens above us.

But I feel like there’s so much more to Venus, to Emerald, to love than just romance. Emerald for me is an embodiment of radical love. It is the idea that love changes things. Love is not static. If we try to keep it in a container and make it stay the same, it withers and dies.

It needs room to breathe and grow and expand. And emerald, among other things, also embodies this archetype of the light bearer. So, like, one of the old names that we’ve got for the planet Venus is the morning star or the even star. In Greek, that would be Eosforos, dawn bringer, and, we also know it as phosphoros, light bringer. And emerald is this story of the light bringer.

There’s a there’s there’s a few famous mythic emeralds that were thought to have fallen from the heavens, like the Holy Grail, which in Wolfram von Eschenbach’s retelling was a green stone brought to Earth by a company of angels. In his version, the grail is more dish or plate shaped than cup shaped, but it still did all the things that we know the grail to do, to heal all illness, to grant eternal life, to regenerate the land, to provide unending nourishment. And that’s love. Right? Love is this gift from the heavens.

It is a celestial force that keeps us sated. No matter how hungry we feel, it finds a way to nourish us and fill us up. It overflows and ripples outwards. It is a flame that we can share infinitely, and that’s what this kind of radical self love does as well. The world’s media at large is constantly bombarding us with messages about how we’re not enough.

We’re not wealthy enough. We’re not thin enough. We’re not tall enough. We’re not pretty enough. We’re not successful enough.

I mean, you pick it. There are some things that on some level you have probably internalized, some sometimes more than we’d be willing to admit out loud. Emerald says that the only thing necessary for you to be enough, the only qualification is that you exist. And that flips these narratives on the head so powerfully. In gemstone therapy, we talk about, like, the seven color rays and they’re kind of archetypal gems or carriers, and, the green ray in this particular system of practice is carried by Emerald.

And one of the messages, one of the deeper lessons that the green ray provides is that all that we see in the manifest world, not just physical form, but all the stuff beyond physical form, Everything is a manifestation of love. Therefore, the fact that you exist means you are the product of this divine unconditional, unwavering, eternal, brilliant, luminous love. And when you recognize that, all of them are not enough, they crumble, they fall apart, they dissolve. So emerald for me is the embodiment of loving yourself irrespective of what those external voices are saying. And when you can find even just the tiniest glimmer of that, when it takes purchase and and and lights a flame within you, you can share that infinitely.

You can hold that torch up. You know, there’s that saying, nothing is lost when one candle lights another. One becomes two becomes four. It’s just exponential. So when we find that kind of self actualization, that kind of radical self love that shakes things up, other people see that and they go, oh, I didn’t know we could do that.

Well, I think I’m gonna. And then they become the model for the next person and the next person and the next person. And this is the kind of love that I genuinely like, it sounds really hippy dippy, but this is the kind of love that saves the world. This is love that tells us the big fights, the big battles, they’re worth engaging in because we’re worth ensuring that we’ve got a planet to pass on to or even just to make it past my forties at this rate. This is such a magical stone that it feels like if we could all just get to know it a little bit better, I think the world would be hugely.

Ashley: I have to tell you, Nicholas, I knew that you would pick this stone for this episode, first of all, because, of course, of course, it’s one of Nicholas’s favorite stones ever. It might be your favorite, favorite, favorite ever. But I knew that you would pick it. But here’s what I wanna say about this. I have, like, a story, and I know this episode is running a little long, so I’m gonna try and keep it short.

But Kyle mentioned, you know, how he had had a lot of parental love and partner love, but had some hurts from friendships and stuff like that. And that was something I could really relate to. Like, friendships have always been really a struggle for me. I think especially being neurodivergent, it’s something I have a hard time with. And there was a time just a couple years ago where I had grown really close with someone, and I just I think the world of this person.

And I made a mistake, and I did something dumb. And I was, like, so worried that it was going to impact the relationship. Like, I was so because I’m like, oh my god. I love this person so much. I just did this really dumb thing.

It probably, like, could have really hurt them. Like, it was a sucky feeling. And it was coming off of a week of working pretty intensely with Emerald, And this person met me with the most unconditional love I have ever felt from a friend, and that person was Nicholas and made me understand what friendship could be in a different way than I think I had ever understood it before. That unconditional love doesn’t have to just come from your parents or your partner. Unconditional love can be from your chosen family too.

And that that is some of the most healing, powerful, supportive, grace giving love that is out there. And, like, that was so deeply intertwined with and fueled by Emerald. And so when Nicholas says, like, this is the love I strive for in my life, he is walking the talk. That’s what I will say. And so I just wanna say that, friend, I’m grateful for you.

I’m grateful for Emerald.

Nicholas: Thank you. And here I am crying. Yeah. And, you know, we all have good days and bad days. Emerald doesn’t judge us when we have bad days, and Emerald reminds us that unconditional love doesn’t mean we need unconditional relationships with no boundaries.

It also means that you deserve that same grace with yourself. Like, I’m I didn’t show you anything then you couldn’t have shown yourself. That’s the magic. Right? And that’s what I hope for all of us, that we can just look in the mirror and say, hey.

You know what? I love you, and we got this. Even if we don’t get this, I’m gonna love you.

Ashley: Yes.

Adam: Well, I hope for this episode that you’ve been able to gain that love comes in so many different forms, and Valentine’s Day can bring up good things and bad things. But we’ve shared so many crystals, more than our three each, I must say, but for Nicholas, gold star for you, that hopefully you’ve found something in this episode that will support you in Valentine’s Day and throughout life. Whether you want to fire up your relationship with your partner, strengthen a relationship with a friend, or maybe just learn and get some support from the universe and mother earth in loving yourself a little bit more. From all of us at Crystal Confab, we hope you have a lovely Valentine’s Day and we’ll be back with our regular one crystal a week and behave ourselves from next week as well. Happy Valentine’s Day.

Be filled with love and blessed be.

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