I can’t believe they let me go. How could they do this to me? What did I do wrong? These are all things you might say to yourself if you’ve just lost your job. Whether you’ve been in the position a short time, or for many years, these are all very natural thoughts to have.
Instead of dwelling on what has happened, you will surely find it much healthier and more beneficial to think about how to move forward.
Step 1: Take Time for Self-Care
After losing your job, your new job should be focusing on self-care (at least for a time). This is one of the most stressful life events you can experience because there is so much uncertainty involved. Instead of rushing into big life-decisions because you are in full-blown “crisis management mode”, try to take a step back from the situation and focus on what you really NEED during this time. Allow yourself a chance to grieve the loss of your job. Take some time to figure out what your next steps should be – not just focusing on the financial side of things, but on your personal happiness and well-being as well. You can’t neglect the influence that your finances will have on your decisions and next steps to take, but you should consider all aspects of your life before finalizing your action plan (not just your pocketbook).
Because this is a stressful time, try focusing on self-care and healing. If your mind is distracted with thoughts like, “How am I ever going to pay my bills?” or “What if I let my family down?”, then it’s not focused on creating a positive action plan. It’s damn near impossible to think of appropriate ways to move forward when you’ve got a bad case of the “Negative Nellies” (P.S. – Black Tourmaline is great for removing negative thinking patterns and self-limiting beliefs). By taking some time for self-care, you can de-stress and allow negative emotions and thoughts to leave your mind. Click Here for 3 simple tips for Self-Care with Crystals.
Step 2: Focus on Positive Manifestation
Once you’ve removed those pesky negative thoughts, you’l find that it’s much easier to think clearly about how to move forward. Grab a piece of Rainbow Fluorite or Golden Tiger’s Eye (both are great for promoting mental clarity) and make a list of 3-5 positive things that you can manifest from the loss of your job. I know this might seem hard to do, but be creative and leave judgement and self-criticism at the door – this is a brainstorm session to help get you focused on moving forward and overcoming the hurdle of negative thinking. Your list might include things like the following:
- I have more time to spend with my family.
- I can do my Yoga practice 3 times per week like I’ve been meaning to.
- I will manifest an even better job for myself (one that’s more fulfilling).
- I can go back to school and pursue my love of art/music/literature/philosophy/etc.
- I can volunteer at the animal shelter.
You might also try making a list of 3-5 reasons you are better off without your old job. Be careful not to get caught in the trap of negative thinking here – remember to keep it positive. Your list might include things like the following:
- I will not have the stress of constant deadlines.
- I will have more self-confidence since I won’t be made to feel foolish by my boss/co-workers.
- My position wasn’t fulfilling and now I am free to pursue something meaningful to me.
Step 3: Release Emotional Baggage
Even when you’re trying to stay positive, it can be easy to slip back into old thought patterns (especially if you’re still having feelings of anger surrounding the loss of your job). Releasing your negative emotions and attachment to how you feel that your career “should have gone” can do wonders for moving you forward. Remember, when you’re focusing on what you’ve lost, you aren’t focusing on all of the amazing things that are coming your way next! Try this meditation to release negativity and attachment so that you can call in the next great thing that the Universe has waiting for you:
For this meditation, I recommend utilizing crystals that facilitate release and letting-go.
Blue Lace Agate, Rose Quartz, Smoky Quartz, Black Obsidian, and Spirit Quartz would all be appropriate choices, or you may choose a stone intuitively. Be sure that your crystal has been cleansed and hold it in your receiving hand (your non-dominant hand). You may also choose to hold a terminated Quartz crystal in your dominant hand (with the point facing toward your fingertips) to help facilitate the release. Take a deep breath in, visualizing yourself pulling in the soothing energy of your chosen crystal. Gently breathe out.
On your next inhalation, feel the energy from your chosen crystal expanding throughout your physical and energetic bodies. As you exhale, visualize yourself releasing any negative thoughts, feelings, emotions, attitudes, or behaviors. If you are using the Quartz crystal, see this energy being sent out of the crystal’s termination (or tip). It is suggested that you visualize a gentle, cleansing waterfall transmuting this negative energy into positive energy (instead of just sending ookie energy out into the universe). Take a few deep breaths – in and out – until you feel relaxed and in your center. Be sure to show your gratitude to your crystal allies by giving them a good cleansing and a bit of time in the sunshine to re-charge their energy.
Step 4: Kick Shame to the Curb!
The above meditation is also good for helping to release feels of shame or guilt (whether they arise from your own self-criticism or from the less than supportive words of others). These feelings do NOT serve you, so take your power back and kick them to the curb!
It’s easy to let these feelings deter you from getting together with friends and family, especially if you are feeling ashamed at having to answer questions like, “So what do you do for a living?” or “How’s your job going?”. It can be terrifying to explain that you’ve lost your job, but if you can stay positive, it can take the anxiety and shame out of these otherwise uncomfortable situations.
Citrine is a crystal that is good for encouraging positivity and instilling self-confidence, so it’s the perfect crystal ally for these social interactions.
Carry one with you as a reminder to frame things in a positive light. Remember…thoughts are things, so don’t get caught up in the blame game. Instead of feeling ashamed of losing your job or blaming your previous employer when you have to engage socially, just reach for your Citrine for a boost of positivity and confidence.
Instead of having conversations like, “That company let me go because they have no idea what they’re doing; it was a nightmare working there – who needs them anyway?”, your Citrine crystal can help shift your thoughts to a healthier position. You might try replying with something like, “It turns out that job didn’t suit me well after all, but I’m so grateful to be able to be exploring my options so that I can find a career I’m truly passionate about.” See the difference here? Citrine can work wonders!!!
Besides, you have no reason to hide away from the world. The more you get out there and hare your light, the more you will be able to successfully network with people and see what doors begin to open for you. Be open to the possibilities that may come from a chat with a friend, an introduction to someone new, or a casual conversation with a stranger at the grocery store.
When you’re open to receiving from the Universe, the possibilities for manifesting what you need are limitless.
Being in transition is never an easy or comfortable place to be, but with the support of some powerful crystal allies, you can be sure to make the most of your time between jobs, ensuring that you are moving forward for your highest good. If you find yourself straying back to old patterns or negative thinking, just reach for your crystals as a reminder of how to break through and move forward.